423 Men: "Delayed Consequences"

423 Men

Countless men suffer from the addictive cycle of lust and sexual sin. They know firsthand the heart wrenching pain and hopelessness expressed by Paul in his letter to the church in Rome:

“For what I am doing I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do.”

Romans 7.15

423 Men is committed to finding a way out of the shame caused by sexual sin. We know there is hope through Jesus Christ, who wholly understands, because He was tempted as we are:

“For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.”

Hebrews 4.15

423 Men is for those who have tried and failed to achieve sexual purity. You are not alone. We meet weekly for mutual support, accountability, and to honestly confess our utter dependence on Jesus Christ. You can share your story in a safe, confidential, and anonymous environment with other men who have achieved victory they never dreamed possible.

You can overcome sexual sin, but you can’t do it alone.

There is hope.

P B & J

423 Men practice PB & J (Prayer, Bible, and Journaling). For some of you, a Bible reading plan may be helpful.

There are 52 weeks and 260 weekdays in any given year (52 X 5 = 260). Coincidentally, there are also 260 chapters in the New Testament. By reading just one chapter of the New Testament every Monday through Friday which, by the way, take only a few minutes, you will finish the entire New Testament in a year.

If you are a little more ambitious, you may want to read the whole Old Testament in a year on this 5 day a week reading plan. Avid Bible students may accomplish the entire Bible each year by simply reading both Old and New Testament columns in the reading plan provided at the link below.

If you fall behind, use the weekends to catch up. If you fall far behind, don’t worry about it. Just pick up your reading for the day. The study of God’s Word should not be viewed as a competition or legal requirement for believers. You don’t have to read the Bible. You get to.

Enjoy your time in the Scriptures and read with a spirit of anticipation. Pray as you read and record your insights in a journal. Be faithful to your PB & J. Share your journal entries with the guys in your 423 Men group. Jesus will speak to you and your life will be forever changed!

You may obtain current versions of this Bible reading plan at these links:

2016 Bible Reading Plan

2015 Bible Reading Plan

Pure Desire Seven Pillars

WEEK 44:

Pure Desire
"Testimonies"
Appendices A-C (pp. 307-318)

7 Pillars
"Gift Tables"
Pillar 7, Lesson 4 (pp. 281-285)

WEEK 43:

Pure Desire
"Dealing with Denial"
Chapter 17 (pp. 298-305)

7 Pillars
"Self-Control & Vision"
Pillar 7, Lesson 4 (pp. 277-280)

WEEK 42:

Pure Desire
"Accept No Substitutes"
Chapter 17 (pp. 291-298)

7 Pillars
"Helping Your Wife (Part 2)"
Pillar 7, Lesson 3 (pp. 271-275)

WEEK 41:

Pure Desire
"Learning to Trust"
Chapter 16 (pp. 286-289)

7 Pillars
"Helping Your Wife (Part 1)"
Pillar 7, Lesson 2 (pp. 263-269)

WEEK 40:

Pure Desire
"Establishing Healthy Boundaries"
Chapter 16 (pp. 282- top of page 286)

7 Pillars
"Disclosure"
Pillar 7, Lesson 1 (pp. 255-262)

WEEK 39:

Pure Desire
"Let Go"
Chapter 16 (pp. 276- top of page 282)

7 Pillars
"Sweet Revenge Planning"
Pillar 6, Lesson 4 (pp. 249-254)

WEEK 38:

Pure Desire
"His and Her Realities"
Chapter 16 (pp. 271- top of page 276)

7 Pillars
"Emotional Freedom (2)"
Pillar 6, Lesson 3 (pp. 247-248)

WEEK 37:

Pure Desire
"Speaking to God-Given Dreams"
Chapter 15 (pp. 263-269)

7 Pillars
"Emotional Freedom (1)"
Pillar 6, Lesson 3 (pp. 243- top of page 247)

WEEK 36:

Pure Desire
"Facing Our ‘Uncutness’"
Chapter 15 (pp. 259-262)

7 Pillars
"Knowing Your Trauma Story (2)"
Pillar 6, Lesson 2 (pp. 239-242)

WEEK 35:

Pure Desire
"The Ultimate Challenge"
Chapter 15 (pp. 255- top of 259)

7 Pillars
"Knowing Your Trauma Story (1)"
Pillar 6, Lesson 2 (pp. 235- middle of 239)

WEEK 34:

Pure Desire
"Take a Mulligan"
Chapter 14 (pp. 249-253)

7 Pillars
"PTSI (Post Traumatic Stress Index"
Pillar 6, Lesson 1 (pp. 225-233)

WEEK 33:

Pure Desire
"Do You Love Me?"
Chapter 14 (pp. 246-249)

7 Pillars
"The Battle is in Your Mind"
Pillar 6, Lesson 1 (pp. 219-224)

WEEK 32:

Pure Desire
"Lord of the Mulligans"
Chapter 14 (pp. 239- top of 246)

7 Pillars
" Shrike Missiles of Praise (Part 2)"
Pillar 5, Lesson 5 (pp. 212-217)

WEEK 31:

Pure Desire
"Choosing to Be Grateful"
Chapter 13 (pp. 232-237)

7 Pillars
" Shrike Missiles of Praise "
Pillar 5, Lesson 5 (pp. 209- middle of 212)

WEEK 30:

Pure Desire
"Staying in the Blessing"
Chapter 13 (pp. 226- top of 232)

7 Pillars
"Sword Drill"
Pillar 5, Lesson 4 (pp. 205-208)

WEEK 29:

Pure Desire
"Kingdom Toughness"
Chapter 13 (pp. 221-226)

7 Pillars
"Preparing for Battle"
Pillar 5, Lesson 4 (pp. 201-205)
(Do “Sword Drill” next week)

WEEK 28:

Pure Desire
"Deeper Issues"
Chapter 12 (pp. 210-220)

7 Pillars
"Training Exercises"
Pillar 5, Lesson 3 (pp. 195-199)

WEEK 27:

Pure Desire
"Values: The Titanic Challenge"
Chapter 12 (pp. 203-209)

7 Pillars
"Trusting God in the Moment"
Pillar 5, Lesson 2 (pp. 187-193)

WEEK 26:

Pure Desire
"The Human Computer"
Chapter 11 (pp. 194-202)

7 Pillars
"Understanding Fantasies"
Pillar 5, Lesson 1 (pp. 179-186)

WEEK 25:

Pure Desire
"Denial, Minimizing, Rationalization, Disassociation"
Chapter 11 (pp. 189- top of 194)

7 Pillars
"Get Up Off the Floor"
Pillar 4, Lesson 5 (pp. 169-177)

WEEK 24:

Pure Desire
"Bitter Waters of Healing"
Chapter 11 (pp. 185-189)

7 Pillars
"Identifying Your Cripple-ness"
Pillar 4, Lesson 4 (pp. 161-168)

WEEK 23:

Pure Desire
"That I May Know Him"
Chapter 10 (pp. 176-183)

7 Pillars
"Your Grievance Story"
Pillar 4, Lesson 3 (pp. 153-159)

WEEK 22:

Pure Desire
"The Doors of Blindness"
Chapter 10 (pp. 171-176)

7 Pillars
"The Matrix of Addiction"
Pillar 4, Lesson 2 (pp. 145-151)

WEEK 21:

Pure Desire
"The Power of Vision"
Chapter 10 (pp. 165-170)

7 Pillars
"Damage Control Plan"
Pillar 4, Lesson 1 (pp. 137-143)

WEEK 20:

Pure Desire
"True Intimacy"
Chapter 9 (pp. 156-163)

7 Pillars
"Self-Care"
Pillar 3, Lesson 5 (pp. 131-135)

WEEK 19:

Pure Desire
"Hope of a Vision"
Chapter 9 (pp. 153- top of 156)

7 Pillars
"Relapse" and the “Faster Scale”
Pillar 3, Lesson 4 (pp. 125-130)

WEEK 18:

Pure Desire
"Safety Planning"
Chapter 8 (pp. 143-149)

7 Pillars
"Life in Small Group"
Pillar 3, Lesson 3 (pp. 119-123)

WEEK 17:

Pure Desire
"The Addictive Root"
Chapter 8 (pp. 136-142)

7 Pillars
"A Covenant to Contend"
Pillar 3, Lesson 2 (pp. 111-118)

WEEK 16:

Pure Desire
"Fitting All the Pieces Together"
By Harry Flanagan (2nd ed. 2008)
Chapter 8 (pp. 132-136)

7 Pillars
"Face the Pain"
Pillar 3, Lesson 1 (pp. 101-109)

WEEK 15:

Pure Desire
"Healing is a Process"
Chapter 7 (pp. 126-131)

7 Pillars
"Warfare"
Pillar 2, Lesson 5 (pp. 95-99)

WEEK 14:

Pure Desire
"Danger Signs"
Chapter 7 (pp. 118-top of 126)

7 Pillars
"Shame"
Pillar 2, Lesson 4 (pp. 89-93)

WEEK 13:

Pure Desire
"Jesus Becoming Lord"
Chapter 7 (pp. 113-117)

7 Pillars
"Isolation"
Pillar 2, Lesson 3 (pp. 85-88)

WEEK 12:

Pure Desire
"Leadership Responsibilities"
Chapter 6 (pp. 106-112)

7 Pillars
"Secrecy"
Pillar 2, Lesson 2 (pp. 81-83)

WEEK 11:

Pure Desire
"Deadly Fantasy"
Chapter 6 (pp. 98-106)

7 Pillars
"Hope in the Midst of Hopelessness"
Pillar 2, Lesson 1 (pp. 77-79)

WEEK 10:

Pure Desire
"When Sex is Lord"
Chapter 6 (pp. 93-97)

7 Pillars
"The Road to Recovery"
Pillar 1, Lesson 5 (pp. 67-73)

WEEK 9:

Pure Desire
"The Only Answer to Shame"
Chapter 5 (pp. 85-92)

7 Pillars
"Highway of Denial"
Pillar 1, Lesson 4 (pp. 61-66)

WEEK 8:

Pure Desire
"A Wounded Heart"
Chapter 5 (pp. 79-85)

7 Pillars
"Powerlessness"
Pillar 1, Lesson 3 (pp. 55-59)

WEEK 7:

Pure Desire
"Descending into Hell"
Chapter 4 (pp. 68-77)

7 Pillars
"Honesty"
Pillar 1, Lesson 2 (pp. 49-53)

WEEK 6:

Pure Desire
"Trauma Zone"
Chapter 4 (pp. 61-68)

7 Pillars
"Direction" (take SAST)
Pillar 1, Lesson 1 (pp. 41-47)

WEEK 5:

Pure Desire
"The Addictive Root"
Chapter 3 (pp. 52-59)

7 Pillars
"Disclosure"
Introduction 4 (pp. 37-40)

WEEK 4:

Pure Desire
"The Noose of Addiction"
Chapter 3 (pp. 43-52)

7 Pillars
"Hijacked Brain"
Introduction 3 (pp. 31-36)

WEEK 3:

Pure Desire
"Spiritual Bondage"
Chapter 2 (pp. 37-42)

7 Pillars
"Sexy Brain"
Introduction 2 (pp. 23-29)

WEEK 2:

Pure Desire
"Parable of the Dragon"
Chapter 2 (pp. 29-36)

7 Pillars
"7 Pillars"
Introduction 1 (pp. 15-21)

WEEK 1:

Pure Desire
"Dr. Roberts - Sex Expert?"
Intro and Chapter 1 (pp. 1-27)

7 Pillars Workbook
"Getting Started"
Introduction 1 (pp. 1-14)

Genesis Process

WEEK 52:

Book 2
"Change"
Process 10: Recovery: Moving Ahead (pp. 141-146)

WEEK 51:

Book 2
"Self Discovery Questions"
Process 9: Change Groups: Relationships That Last (pp. 134-140)

WEEK 50:

Book 2
"Change Groups"
Process 9: Change Groups: Relationships That Last (pp. 129-133)

WEEK 49:

Book 2
"Recovery, Spiritual Growth"
Process 8: Mirrors: Staying Healthy (pp. 122-128)

WEEK 48:

Book 2
"Romance, Reactions, Optimism"
Process 8: Mirrors: Staying Healthy (pp. 117-122)

WEEK 47:

Book 2
"Morals, Integrity"
Process 8: Mirrors: Staying Healthy (pp. 111-117)

WEEK 46:

Book 2
"High-Risk Scenarios"
Process 7: Change: What It Takes (pp. 105-110)

WEEK 45:

Book 2
"Movie Script – Déjà vu"
Process 7: Change: What It Takes (pp. 99-105)

WEEK 44:

Book 2
"Accountability Cards, Double Bind Worksheet"
Process 6: Change: What It Takes (pp. 92-98)

WEEK 43:

Book 2
"Change"
Process 6: Change: What It Takes (pp. 87-91)

WEEK 42:

Book 2
"Ticked Off, Exhausted, Relapse"
Process 5: The Faster Scale: Preventing Relapse (pp. 80-86)

WEEK 41:

Book 2
"Forgetting Priorities, Anxiety, Speeding Up"
Process 5: The Faster Scale: Preventing Relapse (pp. 72-80)

WEEK 40:

Book 2
"Why do You Repeat Destructive Behaviors?"
Process 5: The Faster Scale: Preventing Relapse (pp. 67-71)

WEEK 39:

Book 2
"Common False Belief Systems"
Process 4: Changing Your Heart: Freedom from Lies (pp. 58-66)

WEEK 38:

Book 2
"Projected Lies and Survival Lies"
Process 4: Changing Your Heart: Freedom from Lies (pp. 54-58)

WEEK 37:

Book 2
"Beliefs and the Heart"
Process 4: Changing Your Heart: Freedom from Lies (pp. 51-54)

WEEK 36:

Book 2
"Men" (Sex)
Process 3: Relationships: How They Hurt, How They Heal (pp. 46-50)

WEEK 35:

Book 2
"Men" (Work and Anger)
Process 3: Relationships: How They Hurt, How They Heal (pp. 42-46)

WEEK 34:

Book 2
"You are Made for Relationships"
Process 3: Relationships: How They Hurt, How They Heal (pp. 33-41)
Note: Section "Women" written for women. Read and complete as appropriate.

WEEK 33:

Book 2
"The Joy Center"
Process 2: Your True Self: Finding Your True Identity (pp. 28-32)

WEEK 32:

Book 2
"Father’s Role"
Process 2: Your True Self: Finding Your True Identity (pp. 24-27)

WEEK 31:

Book 2
"Mother’s Role"
Process 2: Your True Self: Finding Your True Identity (pp. 21-24)

WEEK 30:

Book 2
"Road to the Wound"
Process 1: Life History: How Your Past is Affecting Your Present (pp. 16-20)

WEEK 29:

Book 2
"Traumatic Events Summary"
Process 1: Life History: How Your Past is Affecting Your Present (pp. 14-16)

WEEK 28:

Book 2
“Nothing Goes Away”, “Limbic System”
Process 1: Life History: How Your Past is Affecting Your Present (pp. 11-14)

WEEK 27:

Book 2
"Introduction" (pp. 1-10)

WEEK 26:

Book 1
"Give to Grow"
Process 10: Closure: Looking Ahead (pp. 105-109)

WEEK 25:

Book 1
"Hope"
Process 10: Closure: Looking Ahead (pp. 104-105)

WEEK 24:

Book 1
"Risk"
Process 10: Closure: Looking Ahead (pp. 103-104)

WEEK 23:

Book 1
"Freedom from the Past"
Process 9: Forgiveness: Freedom from the Past (pp. 98-102)

WEEK 22:

Book 1
"Forgiveness Frees You"
"Judgments", "Vows and Survival Lies", "False Beliefs"
Process 9: Forgiveness: Freedom from the Past (pp. 93-97)

WEEK 21:

Book 1
"Dynamics of a Protective Personality"
Process 8: Tearing Down the Walls: Being Real (pp. 86-92)

WEEK 20:

Book 1
"Wounds Become Walls"
"Origins of Protective Personality"
Process 8: Tearing Down the Walls: Being Real (pp. 83-86)

WEEK 19:

Book 1
"Fear"
Process 7: Spiritual Freedom: From False Gods – Re-attachment (pp. 76-82)

WEEK 18:

Book 1
"Resentment"
Process 7: Spiritual Freedom: From False Gods – Re-attachment (pp. 74-75)

WEEK 17:

Book 1
"Desire"
Process 7: Spiritual Freedom: From False Gods – Re-attachment (pp. 71-74)

WEEK 16:

Book 1
"How Secrets Affect Your Relationships with God"
Process 6: Secrets: Severing Relationships (pp. 65-70)

WEEK 15:

Book 1
"How Secrets Affect Your Relationships with Others"
Process 6: Secrets: Severing Relationships (pp. 64-65)

WEEK 14:

Book 1
"How Secrets Affect You"
Process 6: Secrets: Severing Relationships (pp. 61-64)

WEEK 13:

Book 1
"Wounded in your Giftedness"
Process 5: Values: What’s Important (pp. 55-60)

WEEK 12:

Book 1
"The Right Thing to Do is the Hard Thing to Do"
Process 4: Crossroads: Between a Rock and a Hard Place (pp. 48-54)

WEEK 11:

Book 1
"Learning to Trust Again"
Process 4: Crossroads: Between a Rock and a Hard Place (pp. 47-48)

WEEK 10:

Book 1
"D__________ if you Do; D__________ if you Don’t"
Process 4: Crossroads: Between a Rock and a Hard Place (pp. 45-47)

WEEK 9:

Book 1
"Freeze (Not Feeling)"
Process 3: Reacting vs. Responding (pp. 39-44)

WEEK 8:

Book 1
"Flight (Fear)"
Process 3: Reacting vs. Responding (pp. 37-39)

WEEK 7:

Book 1
"Fight (Anger)"
Process 3: Reacting vs. Responding (pp. 35-37)

WEEK 6:

Book 1
"Early Childhood Brain Development – Unmet Needs"
Process 2: What is Broken? (pp. 30-34)

WEEK 5:

Book 1
"Pain Avoidance"
Process 2: What is Broken? (pp. 27-29)

WEEK 4:

Book 1
"Breaking Power of Spiritual Stagnation"
Process 1: Change (pp. 22-26)

WEEK 3:

Book 1
"The Power of Hope"
Process 1: Change (pp. 20-22)

WEEK 2:

Book 1
"Stagnation"
Process 1: Change (pp. 15-20)

WEEK 1:

Book 1
"Introduction" (pp. 1-14)

423 Men

Monday, February 1, 2010

"Delayed Consequences"

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